Disorganised attachment

I had a look for information about Borderline Personality Disorder in people without an abusive past.  What I came across was "disorganised attachment".  It is a description of an attachment theory which does not fit in with the other well-known categories.  The ones people know most about are ambivilent attachment, avoidant and secure attachment. 
The bases of the attachment theory are:

Safe Haven - When the child feels threatened, they can return to the parent for comfort and soothing.

Secure base - The caregiver provides a secure base for the child to explore the world around them.

Proximity Maintenance - The child strives to stay near the parent, keeping the child safe.

Separation Distress - The child will become upset when separated from the caregiver.

(http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/a/attachment01.htm)

Disorganised attachment can be caused by the caregiver(s) being unpredictable; often between anger and fear.  The infant involved can often show disorganised behaviour themself, being either resistant or clingy towards the parent.  They are confused by the parent's changing moods between anger and loving.  In some cases, the child can often take on the role of caregiver towards the parent, especially where the parent regularly displays fear.

A journal article I found displays the link between this parenting style and BPD.  It goes as follows (as taken directly from the article):

1.  parental unresolved/traumatized states of mind;

2.  moves to the D infant caught in an approach–avoidance bind, with no secure base refuge when threatened either from without, or within by his or her own unmodulated feelings;

3.  then shifts to the controlling 6 year old who has eventually found a security strategy based on role reversal and providing a pseudo-secure base and a ‘false self’ for herself;

4.  includes repressed terror and inability to repair interpersonal discontinuities and loss as revealed by picture completion studies;

5.  finally shifts to adolescence and early adulthood in which the individual is controlling, aggressive, unable to self-soothe when faced with emotional turmoil and loss, liable to dissociation, and cannot extricate herself from pain-producing relationships; in other words, has become a potential candidate for a diagnosis of BPD.

Holmes, J. (2003) Borderline personality disorder and the search for meaning: an attachment perspective.  Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry, 37, 524-531.

I found this very interesting, and actually feel this might be where my BPD symptoms came from.  I know I should stop focusing on the past, and focus on getting better instead, but I can't help myself!  Please comment below (everyone can comment) if you have any thoughts on this!

Thanks for reading!